[Min-Gi looks uncertain as Ryan moves his chair a little closer, eyes widening as he puts his elbow on the table as though he might actually get in trouble.
Of course he doesn't. There's no one here to tell them off, no matter what the rules might be. Even so, Min-Gi finds himself at a loss of what Ryan thinks he should do.
It isn't exactly a surprise that Ryan isn't set on having a wholly traditional date, but he'd liked him pulling his seat out, so it's not like he's totally against it. He also isn't sure how else to set this apart from the two of them hanging out the same way they always do.]
What do you want me to do?
[He asks it carefully. He knows he's sacrificing points by not being able to work it out for himself, but that's still better than making the wrong choice completely.]
[Ryan can almost see the mental math happening in Min-Gi's head with that response, and he really hadn't meant for it to be such a struggle. He'd only wanted to put him at ease and reassure him he didn't need to be nervous here, but it looks like he's gone and done the opposite.
He lays his hand on the table close to Min, for him to take if he wants to. Maybe a physical reassurance that he isn't screwing this up will help? Min-Gi's getting in his own head and what Ryan really wants is to tug him out of it.]
Well...what do you want to do?
[He's trying his best to be kind about it. It's not all about him! Min-Gi should be able to have fun too. Dates are fun! If both parties aren't having a good time then it's not a good date.
That is, if he's ready for this to be a date. He doesn't have to be. Ryan never would have expected it so soon anyway.]
[It doesn't really matter what Min wants. That hadn't been the point of this. Still, the hand on the table is a clear indicator of something Ryan wants. He moves his own chair closer, making it easier to take his hand after wiping his palm on the leg of his pants.]
I want to be able to prove to you that I'm trying.
[He sounds stilted, but also incredibly sincere. He hates the weirdness between them, and even more he hates knowing that it's because of him.]
[It does matter though, and Ryan can't hide the little pout at Min's reasoning. But he turns his hand so he can squeeze Min's.]
You're definitely trying. I know you are.
[There's...no way to say that without implying that he's not succeeding though. But if Min isn't feeling good about it, then he probably isn't.]
Okay, so...I'm going to ask something, and I promise I don't mean anything weird or mean about it, so don't get mad but I was just thinking about it now and realized there might not have even been a lot of time for it to happen, and I super want to help--
[He's babbling though and it's really the opposite of helpful. He has to stop and breathe and deliberately slow himself down. He gives a sheepish look to Min.]
...Sorry. What I mean is...have you actually been on a date before? Like, even if it was with a girl?
[Honestly, this is a question he'd thought Ryan knew the answer to already. Even when it would have made sense to bring up, he never has. Min-Gi gives him a vaguely put out look, but he's trying not to be too defensive.]
When would I have gone on dates? My parents were more concerned with me getting into uni when you were gone, and it's not like I had opportunities once we left.
[He'd never wanted to either. Maybe he shouldn't be embarrassed considering that, but it still makes him feel weird that he hasn't until now.]
Right! That's what I was saying; I just wanted to make sure.
[Because like, he doesn't know! Maybe Min tried to date the gay away or something when he wasn't looking! He didn't want to just assume the lack of date experience. Somehow that feels meaner to him?]
And I'm not saying that because you're doing a bad job or anything! This place is so cool, and it feels really special. And I'm...not going to say no to getting treated like that...
[His cheeks flush just a little at that. He likes these things! He likes being treated like he's special! He does have to think for a second though, and smush the half-formed thought in his head into shape.]
So like. There's basically two kinds of dates? The first kind is like okay, you've asked someone out and now this is how you get to know them - by going on dates with them, and that's how you figure out if you want to keep dating them or not. The other kind is like...dates once you've already started seeing someone? Those kind are more like "Hey, I think this thing would be fun to do with you, the person I'm head over heels for. I already know you, I already like you, I just want us to spend time together and keep feeling that spark for each other."
[He hopes the description is helpful in illustrating how it's different from platonic hang-outs, because there's so many ways to describe dating that just sound like what they already do. As it is, he already feels like he's talking way too much.]
We're in a weird position where we already know each other and have been apparently into each other so long that we were into each other in our past lives! Crazy. But you're treating it like it's the first kind of date, man. I'm not going to walk out the door because everything isn't exactly right. I'm just...gonna worry that you aren't having any fun. Good dates are fun for both people. That's kind of why people keep going on them?
[It definitely feels like Ryan's saying he's doing a bad job, but Min-Gi stays quiet while he talks, at least hearing him out. It's honestly mostly stuff that Min already knows through books, movies, or even when he'd waited on couples back at Dumpty's. It's not as though he's totally clueless even if he hasn't actually been on a date himself.
He knows the type of places you're supposed to go on dates, and maybe he should have guessed Ryan would rather be taken to somewhere fun rather than a restaurant that kind of feels like the type of place his mother gushes over. It had just felt like the best way to make it clear that a date was what he was going for when they do so much together already.]
It's our first date though. I wanted to do something special.
[Maybe he hasn't gone as all out for it as he could have, but if he feels strange about it now he's sure that feeling would have been even worse if he'd tried even harder.]
Like... I don't even know if that's something I'm supposed to do or if I should be letting you plan these kinds of things, but I thought it would be nice to do something we wouldn't normally do. It doesn't really matter if I have fun or not. I just needed you to know you're worth taking somewhere like this.
[It's not like there are really places like this back in the Grove, and even if there were it might still be a while before he can gather the nerve to go somewhere more crowded with him. Min's very aware that's kind of unfair on Ryan, but this had seemed like it might be a good compromise until he can find more confidence.]
[Ryan sighs, but there's no real annoyance behind it. It's hard to actually be annoyed when he's been this sweet.]
Min-Gi...you have to tell me before the date that it's a date. How else was I supposed to know what you wanted it to be? I would've been so excited! I'm still happy about it now, but it's not really the same?
[This would have gone so differently if Min-Gi had actually asked him on a date. He would have checked to make sure Min was really okay with it, since that's a big jump in comfort levels, but then he probably would have actually spent time getting ready. Maybe he would have found something cooler to wear, and maybe he would have tried even harder to be on time.
He's absolutely not expecting the final point though. Min wanted him to know he's worth nice restaurants and having his chair pulled out for him. It's so nice that Ryan's brain short circuits a little? He feels warm to the tip of his ears and seems embarrassed for it. After all, now who's acting like they've never been on a date before.]
...It does matter though. I'm not going to have fun if I think you're having a terrible time, man. Like sure, I like doing fun new stuff we don't always do, but isn't just about me. You're worth it too. I...I want to make you feel so undeniably loved that it takes all that worry and just--! Crumples it up!
[With his free hand, he makes a sort of squishing gesture with his hand, trying to mime crumpling up a piece of paper.]
[Even if Ryan isn't annoyed, it's still disheartening. The worst part is that Min-Gi doesn't even disagree. He exhales himself, looking down at the table.]
I wanted it to be a surprise...
[The problem there being that he does not have the confidence to carry a surprise date. Especially not one like this. He hasn't committed enough to make this a truly fancy date, and clearly Ryan would have appreciated knowing about it more.
And maybe (definitely...) there was still a part of him that worried about telling him what this was supposed to be. It's still difficult to talk about, and that's hard on both of them. He'd sort of hoped that by just doing it that it might be easier. Instead he just feels disorganized and out of place. This isn't better for him holding his cards close to his chest at all.]
Maybe we could say this isn't a date? This can just be dinner, and I can try again. Or you could show me how it's done. The first time we go out should be perfect.
[Which this isn't. There are parts of it that Ryan clearly appreciates, but other parts have fallen so flat it would be nice if he could undo them.]
I do love surprises, but I think I'll like them more if I know you can ask me to my face too.
[Right now, he doesn't know that. But eventually he might! This was a good attempt though, and Ryan can sort of see the vision, if he squints a little. It's why he's willing to show Min a little bit of mercy--]
Sure, we can say that if you want. It doesn't have to be perfect though? I mean, if it's not we can always go on another one. ...And another. Aaaand another?
[He gives Min an impish, playful look - he knows what Min means and that he cares so much about getting it right, but he's very okay with as many dates as it takes to get there.]
[Could he really? He's not totally sure, but after this he'd definitely be more willing to try.
It's a relief that Ryan is willing to let him try this again, and for the first time since Ryan arrived, Min's finally starting to look as though he's genuinely beginning to relax. He even laughs at his teasing, able to take the gentle dig for what it is rather than criticism of what e's doing wrong.]
Okay, okay. I get it. I still want to do better than this though.
[They both deserve a better date than what this has turned into. He gives Ryan's hand one final quick squeeze before he drops it, deciding it's probably time they got things back on track. There's no staff to hold up here, but he'd still rather move on than linger on the embarrassment of the first part of their attempted date.]
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[Min-Gi looks uncertain as Ryan moves his chair a little closer, eyes widening as he puts his elbow on the table as though he might actually get in trouble.
Of course he doesn't. There's no one here to tell them off, no matter what the rules might be. Even so, Min-Gi finds himself at a loss of what Ryan thinks he should do.
It isn't exactly a surprise that Ryan isn't set on having a wholly traditional date, but he'd liked him pulling his seat out, so it's not like he's totally against it. He also isn't sure how else to set this apart from the two of them hanging out the same way they always do.]
What do you want me to do?
[He asks it carefully. He knows he's sacrificing points by not being able to work it out for himself, but that's still better than making the wrong choice completely.]
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He lays his hand on the table close to Min, for him to take if he wants to. Maybe a physical reassurance that he isn't screwing this up will help? Min-Gi's getting in his own head and what Ryan really wants is to tug him out of it.]
Well...what do you want to do?
[He's trying his best to be kind about it. It's not all about him! Min-Gi should be able to have fun too. Dates are fun! If both parties aren't having a good time then it's not a good date.
That is, if he's ready for this to be a date. He doesn't have to be. Ryan never would have expected it so soon anyway.]
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I want to be able to prove to you that I'm trying.
[He sounds stilted, but also incredibly sincere. He hates the weirdness between them, and even more he hates knowing that it's because of him.]
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You're definitely trying. I know you are.
[There's...no way to say that without implying that he's not succeeding though. But if Min isn't feeling good about it, then he probably isn't.]
Okay, so...I'm going to ask something, and I promise I don't mean anything weird or mean about it, so don't get mad but I was just thinking about it now and realized there might not have even been a lot of time for it to happen, and I super want to help--
[He's babbling though and it's really the opposite of helpful. He has to stop and breathe and deliberately slow himself down. He gives a sheepish look to Min.]
...Sorry. What I mean is...have you actually been on a date before? Like, even if it was with a girl?
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When would I have gone on dates? My parents were more concerned with me getting into uni when you were gone, and it's not like I had opportunities once we left.
[He'd never wanted to either. Maybe he shouldn't be embarrassed considering that, but it still makes him feel weird that he hasn't until now.]
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[Because like, he doesn't know! Maybe Min tried to date the gay away or something when he wasn't looking! He didn't want to just assume the lack of date experience. Somehow that feels meaner to him?]
And I'm not saying that because you're doing a bad job or anything! This place is so cool, and it feels really special. And I'm...not going to say no to getting treated like that...
[His cheeks flush just a little at that. He likes these things! He likes being treated like he's special! He does have to think for a second though, and smush the half-formed thought in his head into shape.]
So like. There's basically two kinds of dates? The first kind is like okay, you've asked someone out and now this is how you get to know them - by going on dates with them, and that's how you figure out if you want to keep dating them or not. The other kind is like...dates once you've already started seeing someone? Those kind are more like "Hey, I think this thing would be fun to do with you, the person I'm head over heels for. I already know you, I already like you, I just want us to spend time together and keep feeling that spark for each other."
[He hopes the description is helpful in illustrating how it's different from platonic hang-outs, because there's so many ways to describe dating that just sound like what they already do. As it is, he already feels like he's talking way too much.]
We're in a weird position where we already know each other and have been apparently into each other so long that we were into each other in our past lives! Crazy. But you're treating it like it's the first kind of date, man. I'm not going to walk out the door because everything isn't exactly right. I'm just...gonna worry that you aren't having any fun. Good dates are fun for both people. That's kind of why people keep going on them?
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He knows the type of places you're supposed to go on dates, and maybe he should have guessed Ryan would rather be taken to somewhere fun rather than a restaurant that kind of feels like the type of place his mother gushes over. It had just felt like the best way to make it clear that a date was what he was going for when they do so much together already.]
It's our first date though. I wanted to do something special.
[Maybe he hasn't gone as all out for it as he could have, but if he feels strange about it now he's sure that feeling would have been even worse if he'd tried even harder.]
Like... I don't even know if that's something I'm supposed to do or if I should be letting you plan these kinds of things, but I thought it would be nice to do something we wouldn't normally do. It doesn't really matter if I have fun or not. I just needed you to know you're worth taking somewhere like this.
[It's not like there are really places like this back in the Grove, and even if there were it might still be a while before he can gather the nerve to go somewhere more crowded with him. Min's very aware that's kind of unfair on Ryan, but this had seemed like it might be a good compromise until he can find more confidence.]
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Min-Gi...you have to tell me before the date that it's a date. How else was I supposed to know what you wanted it to be? I would've been so excited! I'm still happy about it now, but it's not really the same?
[This would have gone so differently if Min-Gi had actually asked him on a date. He would have checked to make sure Min was really okay with it, since that's a big jump in comfort levels, but then he probably would have actually spent time getting ready. Maybe he would have found something cooler to wear, and maybe he would have tried even harder to be on time.
He's absolutely not expecting the final point though. Min wanted him to know he's worth nice restaurants and having his chair pulled out for him. It's so nice that Ryan's brain short circuits a little? He feels warm to the tip of his ears and seems embarrassed for it. After all, now who's acting like they've never been on a date before.]
...It does matter though. I'm not going to have fun if I think you're having a terrible time, man. Like sure, I like doing fun new stuff we don't always do, but isn't just about me. You're worth it too. I...I want to make you feel so undeniably loved that it takes all that worry and just--! Crumples it up!
[With his free hand, he makes a sort of squishing gesture with his hand, trying to mime crumpling up a piece of paper.]
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I wanted it to be a surprise...
[The problem there being that he does not have the confidence to carry a surprise date. Especially not one like this. He hasn't committed enough to make this a truly fancy date, and clearly Ryan would have appreciated knowing about it more.
And maybe (definitely...) there was still a part of him that worried about telling him what this was supposed to be. It's still difficult to talk about, and that's hard on both of them. He'd sort of hoped that by just doing it that it might be easier. Instead he just feels disorganized and out of place. This isn't better for him holding his cards close to his chest at all.]
Maybe we could say this isn't a date? This can just be dinner, and I can try again. Or you could show me how it's done. The first time we go out should be perfect.
[Which this isn't. There are parts of it that Ryan clearly appreciates, but other parts have fallen so flat it would be nice if he could undo them.]
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I do love surprises, but I think I'll like them more if I know you can ask me to my face too.
[Right now, he doesn't know that. But eventually he might! This was a good attempt though, and Ryan can sort of see the vision, if he squints a little. It's why he's willing to show Min a little bit of mercy--]
Sure, we can say that if you want. It doesn't have to be perfect though? I mean, if it's not we can always go on another one. ...And another. Aaaand another?
[He gives Min an impish, playful look - he knows what Min means and that he cares so much about getting it right, but he's very okay with as many dates as it takes to get there.]
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[Could he really? He's not totally sure, but after this he'd definitely be more willing to try.
It's a relief that Ryan is willing to let him try this again, and for the first time since Ryan arrived, Min's finally starting to look as though he's genuinely beginning to relax. He even laughs at his teasing, able to take the gentle dig for what it is rather than criticism of what e's doing wrong.]
Okay, okay. I get it. I still want to do better than this though.
[They both deserve a better date than what this has turned into. He gives Ryan's hand one final quick squeeze before he drops it, deciding it's probably time they got things back on track. There's no staff to hold up here, but he'd still rather move on than linger on the embarrassment of the first part of their attempted date.]